Work With a Jerk Kill Them With Kindness

Work With a Jerk Kill Them With Kindness The saying kill them with kindness isnt only for corny motivational posters; the message itself can have a huge impact on life in the workplace. Whether youre working with a rude colleague or facing an awkward misunderstanding over email, dealing with difficult people is a task well all have to face at one stage or another. Instead of flying off the handle, killing the subject with kindness will not only knock them down a post or two, but also a paint you i a positive reflection, thanks to the positive reflection of your own communication abilities. So rip down those motivational posters and put the words into action with the following tips: Dont react irrationally Dealing with difficult colleagues can take its toll emotionally. If its been going on for a prolonged amount of time, its easy to snap and act to them as they do towards you. When it all gets too much, remind yourself that you are, in fact, the bigger person. Snapping back and being rude to a difficult colleague will only fuel the part of them that makes them act like this in the first place. Remember youre bigger and better than that react calmly, with a smile. https://twitter.com/k_halvorsen/status/735834091904479232 I am right, and they are wrong Genuine kindness doesnt come from a big ego, and acting kind as an end to a means wont help in the long run. Acting, and not genuinely feeling, will only fuel the anger you feel toward your colleague, because youll probably harbour the annoyance for a long time. Instead, its important to remember that when it comes down to it, you are in the right and they are in the wrong.  And by being polite, calm and professional, you can show the difficult person (and the rest of your colleagues!) that your opinion is valid and rational. This in itself will keep you feeling level-headed. be nice to people. it gets you far nicole ?? (@roadkvill) February 9, 2016 Detach yourself A good way to handle your reactions to a difficult colleague is to try and detach yourself from the given situation and attempt to look at it from an outsiders perspective. If a friend came to you for advice with  dealing with a difficult colleague, what advice would you give them? Sometimes its easier to dish out advice than it is to follow it, but trying to see from another persons  perspective can give you then insight you need in order to be kind to a difficult person. Sometimes you need to take your own advice. Cass (@sweetheartie) May 23, 2016 Who would you be more likely to work with? Instead of  hitting the roof over  a difficult employee, try and consider what type of person you would rather work with. Would it be  a rude and difficult employee  or  a polite, professional and nice one? When you are faced with a difficult colleague, keep this in mind as you respond. Killing them with kindness will not only show them up, but it will show your other colleagues your strengths when it comes to working with people. People would be more likely to want to work with you  rather than the  rude colleague in the future. Everybody is so grumpy at work right now and Im just tryna vibe and keep a semi positive attitude #posi Brittany Dwyer (@brit512x) May 29, 2016 Take it to HR (if you need to) Sometimes killing people with kindness can only go so far. If a certain person is making your working life extremely  difficult, sometimes its worth talking to a relevant HR manager or boss for advice or guidance. Have you ever had a bad experience with a colleague at work? Tell us how you killed them with kindness in the comments below. Main image credit: Shutterstock